Fay Weldon – women should not try to balance children, career and love life 


How feminism has harmed women, by Fay Weldon: Author says some have suffered because they may have to now work when they do not want to

  • Author said women should not try to balance children, career and love life 
  • Mrs Weldon said being a mother was now hard because of huge pressure
  • Added feminism ‘undermined men’ as they are unable to support families
Fay Weldon (pictured) has admitted feminism has done some women more harm than good and has ‘undermined men’ 

Fay Weldon (pictured) has admitted feminism has done some women more harm than good and has ‘undermined men’

She has said feminism was vital in the 1970s because of the ‘ridiculous state of affairs’ women found themselves in.

But now Fay Weldon has admitted the movement has done some women more harm than good and has ‘undermined men’ too much as they are no longer able to support their families.

She added that women should not try and balance children, a career and a love life because they will be too busy and said it is harder to be a mother now than ever because women pile pressure on each other.

The writer, 84, whose books include The Life and Loves of a She-Devil, said women have suffered as a result of feminism as they now have to go out to work when many might not want to.

She said: ‘Feminism probably suited one woman in three. And one woman in three would rather stay home, look after the children and had no ambition.

‘Healthy, educated middle-class women persuaded everyone else that they should be feminists. 

It happened because it suited new technology — women could do all that. Muscle power, which was what men had, was no longer needed.’

She added that because of these changes, ‘men increasingly seem to be getting a hard deal’ and she said she cannot help but start to see the world from their point of view.

She explained: ‘Feminism has made us all go out to work and made us earn a living, and the male wage is no longer, because of feminism, able to support a family, so women have to work, which is very tiring.

‘Because we stuck up for freedom, freedom had its disadvantages.

Because we won the revolution, the revolution has a fall-out and we suffer from that, but on the whole, I think what was earned was a good thing.

‘Feminism has certainly undermined men if only because women now want to have girl babies, not boy babies, because their lot in life is better.’ Mrs Weldon, who has said that women must try harder to stop judging men and start liking them, has been married three times.

Her first marriage was to a headmaster and lasted two years, the next was to artist Ron Weldon, who ran off with their therapist in 1994.

He died the day the divorce was finalised. Her third husband, poet Nick Fox, is also her manager. They live on a hilltop in Dorset.

She has four children, four stepchildren and a clutch of grandchildren but said that women should not hope to try and juggle a job, children and a love life, as they will be too busy.

She said: ‘I think you can have two out of three — a family, a career and a love life — but very seldom three. Career women may have a family but aren’t likely to have a love life because they are too busy.’ 

 

Mrs Weldon said it is harder to be a mother now than ever because women pile pressure on each other

One of the problems with trying to have it all is that it is harder to be a mother now than ever, according to Mrs Weldon.

She said: ‘Being a mother is now all time and emotion-consuming. In the old days, it was simply not. You fed your children on evaporated milk, put them down the end of the garden without a cat net over the pram, and got on with your life. And we all survived and we were happy.

‘There’s always been pressure on mothers, but now the pressure is phenomenal to do the right thing.

‘Pressure used to come from doctors and the male establishment, but now it comes from other mothers’.

This is not the first time Mrs Weldon has found herself at odds with feminism.

She has previously drawn ire for taking her husband’s surname, for having had a few nips and tucks and for claiming in a 1998 interview that being raped wasn’t the worst thing that could happen to a woman.

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